Wednesday, July 28, 2010


One would think that, after the Beijing Conference and all the mambo jumbo about gender equality, men and women would be on equal footing. That would be the dumbest assumption in modern history because as much as we do not like to admit it, it is still very much a man’s world.

There are certain things that are still for “men only”.

It really should be okay for a girl to ask a guy out... I mean seriously, if you like a guy and you think he likes you too, why shouldn’t you go up to him and say : “ hey boo, let’s add your one to my one to make two”.

Okay so maybe not in those exact words, but you catch my drift.

If a girl were to do that, she would be accused of many things like emasculating the guy. How is it emasculation if she is simply stating the obvious? She likes you, you like her; she thinks you lot should be together so she said it, end of story.

Had it been the guy who spoke up first it would have been seen as “proper”, that’s another thing. What is improper about a girl asking a guy out? Where is it set in stone that a girl must wait to be asked out? This isn’t the 1930’s, people. A woman who stands and demands what’s hers is not to be feared as some believe, she should be seen as a treasure.

“It is not the African way”...I got that answer from a well educated young man.

Some Africans consider some stones and trees as deities, whiles others believe that a woman’s place is in the kitchen, does that mean that the “African way” is right becuase that’s what they know? If that were the case, we’d still live in huts and walk around with cloths wrapped around our waists (those were simpler times, weren’t they?) Progress should be universal, not just in some places. We say women can do what men do, so there’s nothing wrong with taking some initiative.

Some girls fear being labeled as “desperate”…seriously???????????????????????

The difference between the girl who asked a guy out and got him and the one who sat in the corner admiring him is that, the one who tried got the guy. You over there is still admiring. It is not desperate to take matters into your own hands. It is simply "Bold initiative".

I understand the ones with fear of rejection though…I mean what if he says no or even worst laughs at you and tells all his friends?

The “desperado”….no lie, that would sting like crazy.

It’s a hard pill to swallow, I know, but at least you saw what you wanted and went for it. There are tons of guys who would appreciate that because heaven knows, they’ve been waiting for a girl to walk up to them. Trust me, a lot have been working up the nerves and would love a nudge in the right direction.

However, there really is nothing wrong with being wooed by a man…it’s a woman’s God-given right God knows, once the relationship begins, a lot of …[excuse my French here] crap will be dealt the woman’s way…and having those memories to look back on, would help remind her that, that wonderful man still resides in there somewhere.